9.06.2009

Victoria's (not-so) Secret Dating tips for Boys

I thought I'd share my infinite wisdom with you all (lol). Hopefully it'll help you boys out there steer away from some major errors on the field and help all those poor innocent girls out there dealing with boys trying really hard to become men.


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dating tip #1 for boys: never seem too desperate (i.e. message her every morning)

- It's very unbecoming of a man, plus she's bound get tired of you, especially if your conversations are bland. Let her message you first sometimes.


dating tip #2 for boys: never continuously pry about who she's out with (i.e. "who's the boy??" "hot date?!" "who is he?!!?")

- Jealousy, clingy-ness, insecurity are three qualities that girls frown upon when looking for a significant other. If you're like this BEFORE you date, I can't imagine how'd you be AFTER. If she's out with a friend, she's out with a friend, leave it.


dating tip #3 for boys: don't start using terms of endearment within a month of talking to her (i.e. "silly", "sleepyhead", "piggy")

- It's just too fast. If you start doing that, she'll just run in the other direction. All you're doing is causing shivers to continuously travel down her spine. Non-mushy nicknames are fine though.


dating tip #4 for boys: never use the line "hehe, you're so silly :P" it makes you sound like a girl, and it's totally uncool.

- *shivers* Boy flirting fail 101.


dating tip #5 for boys: Never use your mom as an excuse to give the girl anything (i.e. flowers)

- Lame. Plus, if you haven't talked to her for long, she won't know how to take it and freak out. Flowers always mean something, especially when randomly given and not during a special occasion. Birthday and graduation flowers are acceptable.


dating tip #6 for boys: don't tell sob stories and try to get pity points on your first date.

- It's your first date, she probably doesn't care much about you yet, and sob stories are definitely not going to help your case. Makes you sound like you're looking for some lovin' that you're probably not going to get.


dating tip #7 for boys: yes, we live in the 21st century and you may be in gov't debt, but it doesn't hurt to pay for a couple meals.

- Chivalry is not dead, and your wallet is not empty.


dating tip #8 for boys: on a first date at a meal, don't sit next to her, lawyers do that to make the witness uncomfortable.

- That's what boyfriends do. Are you her boyfriend? No, didn't think so.


dating tip #9 for boys: never overstay your welcome, you want her to want you right?

- If she looks at the time a lot, she wants to go. Let her go, unless she says otherwise. If she stutters when she says she doesn't need to go, she wants to go.


dating tip #10 for boys: never boost yourself up by pushing people down. Very uncool.

- Sure you talk to the mail room and janitorial staff, that's very kind of you, but not so much when you describe it as "understanding the importance of the people at the bottom who need to put food on the table"


dating tip #11 for boys: Don't try to make yourself sound "mature" when you really aren't. (ie don't make living on your own sounds so tough)

- "oh, you know, I have to clean the house, do laundry, and cook, I have so little time for anything else!" Two letters for you, BS. What about the rest of the people who live alone and have a life?


dating tip #12 for boys: Never say "hehe you're so silly :P" Yes, it was DT#4, but it srsly has to be re-iterated. Major turn-off.

- It's like you have nothing better to say, she probably just told a joke, do you have so little imagination that you can't properly respond to her?


dating tip #13 for boys: don't try to get a girl to talk to you by telling her you're running away from home/pseudo-suicidal. Pretty pathetic.

- It does work for the next hour because she is a nice girl, but you just ruined your chance forever. Unfortunately, no girl really wants to date a run-away or a guy with extremely low self-esteem.


dating tip #14 for boys: Don't tell the girl that you think your parents don't love you on your first date (DT#6) Not gonna make her love you!

- Really, what did you think that was going to achieve? Trying to make her feel bad knowing her parents love her?


dating tip #15 for boys: Don't continuously playfully comment/ make fun of her traits/mannerisms. It gets tiring after 20 times.

- This one is simple. We all know you get tired when a girl continuously makes the same remarks about your traits/mannerisms, so why do it to her?


dating tip #16 for boys: Don't put down her lifestyle because you think yours is better - "I like to be independent, I'd never use my daddy's money"

- Well I'm sorry your daddy doesn't love you enough to give you money (SNAP j/k... but careful, that leads to DT #6 and #14). She'll admire your independence, and then frown at your ignorance.


dating tip #17 for boys: Never say "hehe you're so silly :P". Yes, it's that important.

- We'll let you slip once or twice, but anything more... ... If you say it as a joke it's fine, but if you mean it seriously and continuously say it, we have a problem.


dating tip #18 for boys: Yes, she did compliment you, but it probably didn't mean as much you thought it did. Don't make her feel awkward for saying it.

- "It means a lot coming from you", unless it was some kind of heartfelt compliment, try to avoid that. She only told you she's impressed by some of your skills, just smile and say thanks, she most likely didn't mean anything more.


dating tip #n for boys:.... I'll try to add more as I think of them, if you have any other tips, comment! and I'll include them in my list.


Hope you all enjoyed my tips and I hope you boys put them into use, and stop scaring away the innocent. lol. These were all things you should never do, but maybe I'll make a list of the positive things to do one day.


If you keep with these, you should be better off, however I'm sure guys can come up with even more unthinkables that can ruin their relationships. Oh boys, you're so silly, hehe :P.


original posted: aug 28, 2009

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dating tip #19 for boys: don't ask obvious questions like "where's your boyfriend?" to try and find out if she's single. That's just a game killer, unless she does.

- Congratulations, you just created your own awkward moment. When you make it so obvious, you lose your game, especially if it's early on in your game. In a conversation, that question will probably never come up naturally, so are you really that desperate? Be friendly, not wanna-be-boyfriendly.


dating tip #20 for boys: you probably shouldn't steal your date's car of your first date. Maybe the second? LOL.

- link it! poor girl haha


dating tip #21 for boys: don't be late for a movie and become immature because she didn't stand up in the middle of the theatre in the middle of the movie.

- If you're not watching the movie with just her, don't expect her to wait outside for you, especially if the movie started 30 minutes ago. If she tells you what row she's in, man up and COUNT, 1, 2, 3, 4.


dating tip #22 for boys: if the girl cannot take spicy food, don't take her to a restaurant and order the spicy dish on the menu. LOL

- tip for girl, tell the guy you can't take it, and don't order the spicy menu item the next time you go out! That becomes your fault. haha.


dating tip #23 for boys: the silent treatment is so passé.

- Err, did you expect to impress her with that on your second date? All girls want petty guys right? No.


dating tip #24 for boys: definitely don't leave retarded voicemails.

- Really? I never realized that such egotistical jack***es actually existed. The reason some girls stay single. LOL

8.29.2009

So why aren't we?




If this is really true, the biggest question is "Why aren't we doing this now?!"

8.27.2009

John amuses me.

You know, John, the head of game development on armorgames.com.

My two new favourite flash games:



P.S. Have I ever told you how much I love elephants too?

6.14.2009

new links on the side bar...

...for easier stalkage, at least on my part :) It really takes too long to link from one to another, so why not just put them all on my page. Feel privileged kiddies :D

5.12.2009

it's been awhile...

... since I've updated.

I swear I was going to always update my dream blog, but then as I recorded them, sometimes, it would inappropriate to post for the public, or too embarrassing for either myself or the innocent victims who show up in my dreams.

It's May now, and usually at the end of every school year, I have a memories post, of the good, the bad, and the ugly. But I feel like it hasn't hit me yet. It hasn't hit me that I'm done undergrad and that I technically should be giving back to society right about now. Unfortunately, being jobless and probably heading back to school in September, it's kind of hard.

But don't worry, I'll post sometime soon; something deep and reminiscent... maybe.

3.17.2009

secret agents



so I really don't know what the buzz is and I don't know how to fix it, so too bad.

But yes, this dream is a little shorter, but hope you enjoy it anyway!

3.10.2009

ninja liver

So I guess I somewhat started my "vlog" haha



it's a lot longer than I expected, but it's okay, for my own records right? And I'm pretty sure when people are bored they can watch the whole thing haha.

3.08.2009

vlog?

So I just set my webcam back up last night (like, my real webcam, not my crappy laptop one) and I don't know, maybe because of all the vlog's that I've been watching in bed during my sick week, but I feel like making a vlog as well. haha.  Just because.   I don't know what to talk about though, and my editing skills are weak.... we'll see.

I just felt like posting just because I haven't for awhile.

3.06.2009

bases



xkcd for everything. haha. FINALLY it's explained in writing.

1.23.2009

history in the making

Where were you when Obama was inaugurated?